I woke up this morning as I often do on the weekends–mind awake, body tired. There were nudging thoughts in my head, so I gave up on trying to sleep (since I wasn’t anyhow) and got out my notebook.
These are the writing of a mystical mama which have taken the tone of a manifesto, for you–and for me–as we move into the new year.
Here’s the list in case you’re short on time.
- Life is richer when you savor the pauses
- Make wild offers
- Put yourself in an experiential field
- Come out!
- Learn to make distinctions
- Readiness is over-rated
- Great answers come from great questions
- Healing your life requires power
- All worthy things originate from space
- Everything you need is within
These statements have emerged from my creative work, conversions with my husband and friends, time spent in women’s circles, nature, and ideas I’ve come across recently.
Manifesto for Conscious Living (2018 edition)
#1 Life is richer when you savor the pauses
Right now, in Winter, a pause is necessary. This pause help you digest all that is going on, the sweet and the less-than-savory moments. When you digest these moments, what needs to move out of your body will move out and what nourishes will stay. You can ask your experiences to move through you–as needed–so they do not become stuck and cause dis-ease. Give yourself permission to dance, sing, cry, sigh deeply, or scream to process your emotions.
#2 Make wild offers
As a solopreneur, making offers is a great gauge for personal alignment. I’m not suggesting you make offers that you don’t intend to fulfill on, rather try something on and see if refinement is necessary. My offers have led me back to my core because of the dissonance–or harmony–they created within me.
When you notice the misalignment it can help create true alignment. Clinging to sound-bites like, “alignment before action” are not always the answer (c’mon, when were sound-bites ever the answer?!) Sometimes, you need to take action (even misaligned action) and learn from the dissonance so that you can create harmony. There are no one-size-fits-all formulas. Stop looking.
So make wild offers…and they will turn into harmonic offers with the awareness and refinement you bring.
#3 Put yourself in an experiential field
This ‘field’ is a space between two or more people. It’s a real space and often tangible. A third entity exists in the space between our communications and connections. This god-space is where we can be seen, felt, and heard on an authentic level. It cannot occur in online spaces or in reading a book (something profound can happen in those spaces, but that is not what I’m speaking about here).
If you are seeking transformation, it comes mainly through interaction with the other; it is not a solitary pursuit. Personal development is becoming collective development. This field between two persons contains words and our energy. It gives us the opportunity to experience our self through the generous listening and presence of others. We can experience our own nature in this space and we give others the chance to experience themselves from what we co-create between us. This is part of ontology–the science of being.
Be brave and put yourself in contexts where you can be seen, felt, and heard. Take your important issues offline and into real space. This is where you will see your greatest growth. This is where people will “get” you.
#4 Come out!
Out of the closet. Out of the woodwork. Out of hiding. Out of your house. Our from behind your screen.
I fully appreciate that there is a purpose to hiding and I know that things don’t always feel safe. But, what is it costing you to relate to life like it isn’t safe to be who and what you are? A belief that life and people are unsafe negatively affects health.
You can always go back into hiding, but come out and show us who you are from time to time. It actually empowers others to do so too.
#5 Learn to make distinctions
Be curious about things you don’t understand. Using lazy words, like “woo-woo” help no one. All that means is that you don’t grasp something edgy and aren’t willing to look or consider its usefulness. The things most people call ‘woo-woo’ fall into many known categories, such as: quantum physics, philosophy, trans-personal psychology, biology, neuroscience, mysticism, ontology, and metaphysics.
If we don’t agree with, or believe in, a seemingly edgy or radical viewpoint, that is fine. But if we’re lazy about making distinctions, that is another thing. Curiosity and inquiry is the anecdote for over-generalization.
#6 Readiness is over-rated
There are times when we know in our gut that we are ready for an event–like being 42-weeks pregnant in August, you just know you’re ready! However, in hindsight, most important life events didn’t come with the thought, “Oh ya, I’m so ready!” For some of us, it’s normal to feel hesitant at beginnings. If we wait for this feeling of readiness, we could find ourselves waiting for a very long time. If you feel unprepared, you can try trusting grace, intuition, and vision, or whatever else empowers you.
So, if you aren’t ready for 2018, don’t sweat it! You might never be, and it can be a great year regardless of your readiness.
Which brings me to my next statement…
#7 Great answers come from great questions
We need to ask ourselves and each other better questions because great questions spark something positive in us. How many years of human civilization and all we can think of to say to one another is, “are you ready for Christmas?” Answer is either yes, or no, and causes a bit of anxiousness.
What could we ask instead? How about, “what do you look forward to at the holidays?” That answer gives us a glimpse into WHO they are, what they value, and allows us to make a deeper connection if we wish to.
You can also ask yourself better questions. I like to ask things like, “what would make my life work in _____ area?” Sometimes, I think I already know, but I don’t know how to get there, so I ask “how do I get there?” And…wait, without trying to come up with the answer in that moment (my friend Kim taught me this). Staying with the important questions can make life more fulfilling. Answers are everywhere. If you want answers that work for you becoming a great question-asker is key.
#8 Healing your life requires power
If you want to heal something in your life (your body, mindset, creativity, past, stories around–fill in the blank) you need to know where your power comes from. I learned this from Caroline Myss’ work and now it seems so obvious to me. Your power can come from a variety of places: your body, mind, soul, Spirit, etc..
Your body is a great place to look! Where does power reside that is stuck, sleeping, cold, hot, or painful? How do you generate your own power (instead of unconsciously relying on the power of others)? Which activities are em-powering? Conversely, which activities drain your power (i.e. energy)?
You may want to work with power symbols to get acquainted with both your internal and external power sources. Since healing takes power/energy, stop giving it away.
#9 All worthy things originate from space
Women are space. We hold space. We have a womb. We are the container and the vessel. There’s a lot of power in our creative abilities. But, our creations will not manifest in the outer world if we do not hold space for ourselves. Take time in stillness, which is the essence of space.
#10 Everything you need is within
If you’ve been on a personal growth journey, you’ve heard a lot of ideas about how to think, behave, and live a “successful” life. Some of these ideas resonate deeply and some are useless. When you stumble upon a message that resonates and sounds like something that would serve you–read that as works for you–it is important to not elevate the insight above your own inner-wisdom reservoir, rather see that wisdom as a bridge–connecting you to our own wisdom. If you elevate outside wisdom above your own it puts you on a track of seeking which cannot be satiated. Like a hamster on a wheel, you can’t get off because you’re chasing the next self-help solution or guru. It’s exhausting and not at all empowering.
Any thought leader, teacher, coach, or expert who doesn’t emphasize the importance of looking within is not worth your time.
This isn’t to say that you don’t need outside help or guidance. You need mentors, teachers, coaches, and cheerleaders who draw out the best in you. They can give you the mirror to see your greatness (and also your follies), and the tools to make your journey worthwhile.
Give space to your inner-wisdom and celebrate the gift that you are.
I will be re-reading my manifesto over the course of the year to see what needs refinement for 2019.
I hope you find a nugget here that connects you to, and strengthens, your own wisdom!